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Thank you, nephew. Subject,

I need more than hugging and

hunching. Dear Stephen Shirley, I am engaged to a 63-year-old man that acts a lot older than he is.

His thoughts on sex and life in general shock me, and I need some advice.

I'm only 59 years old, and I still enjoy sex, and I have tried to be patient with my man.

He thinks I'm a freak because I try to initiate sex daily.

He likes to grind and do a lot of kissing, but we rarely go all the way.

I like to take care of him in other ways, if you know what I mean.

But when it comes to me, he says that his mouth is designed to eat food and nothing else. He won't even kiss around it. I'm in love with this man, and I am looking forward to a lifetime with him, but I am going to need sex often. He says demeaning things to me when I try to get him to be freaky with me, so I've stopped him from hunching on me or rubbing on me in the bedroom. I just lie there and wait for him to go to sleep so I can handle my business by myself. I am letting you all know that I feel like cheating on this guy and I have my ex on standby just in case. I have asked my man why he proposed to me, and he said he loves me,

and he wants to show me that there's a lot more to a great marriage than just sex.

It's not that he can't perform because he is always ready.

He just doesn't want to do the do.

So, should I follow my man's lead and stop pressuring him for sex?

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