brought to you by the every dollar app start budgeting for free today i'm wondering if i can

role play with you guys so that i can tell my children to get their act together yes who gets to be the

children well my children are three girls three three boys, ages 23 to 40.

Wow.

Yeah, my husband and I today, we've sacrificed 44 years, and we've put our time and energy into fostering, adopting, and we have a 37-year-old son, and mom's about burnout.

Mom's tired of doing the budget thing and saying, yeah, I can loan you money on this app,

that app, and then the goals that I have for next year for retiring to our little escape is not going to happen because I'm trying to pay down

bills and have everything free and clear so I can live on our budget.

So you're still giving grown kids allowances essentially and you're sick of it?

Okay, darling.

Their cell phone, their insurance. I super want to role play this

because I think that'll be fun and instructive, but I have to ask you this question.

Yes. Let's not talk about them for a second, okay? I want to talk about you.

Yes. Every time you give them money, every time you pay their cell phone bill, my new friend darlene get something what are you

getting i'm getting anxiety nope that's not true that's not true you're getting that's what your

body is doing because of the choices you keep making. You're getting something positive for this or you

wouldn't keep digging a hole deeper and deeper that you keep falling into. What are you getting from this?

Because that's the root here. Your kids are not the problem here. All they're doing is what has

always worked for them. Right. You doing is what has always worked for them.

Right.

You're doing what has always worked for you in a weird sideways way. So what are you getting from this?

I guess the satisfaction of trying to push them into adulthood and being, nope, nope, because you're not pushing them.

...