Hello I'm Trish Halpin and I'm Lorraine Candy. Welcome to Postcards from Mid Life, the show where we help you through the Midlife, the menopause, motherhood and everything in between.

Today we have novelist and musician Louise Wenner and she's going to be talking to us about finding your sexy again.

She is and she's also going to talk a little bit about parenting teenagers as they go into the wild, wild, crazy partying days.

Yeah, that's the bit we all dread isn't it?

But we're both there with that one we all dread, isn't it?

But we're both there with that one at the moment, aren't we?

But I think before we get into that, I want to talk about something that's happened this week that

just struck me as a learning, a midlife learning, and I think often when we reach this stage we there's lots of

little tiny details that would make our life easier if we know in the

in advance so can I just talk about Sunday nights you definitely can so if you're

maybe in your early 40s listening to this and your

children are sort of ten eleven or under you won't know what's coming on a

Sunday night with teenagers it's cut it's the hell zone isn't it so around six o'clock everyone

that I know most people we have a giant massive family row and it's about oh yes yes, is your homework done?

Oh, is all your uniform ready?

What's happening on Monday morning?

Who needs to be wear?

Have you got the pee socks that you need?

And this all sort of builds up and I think mums maybe feel

strangely responsible for it. You have this giant argument on a Sunday so

Sundays become really important. It's a twilight zone. Yeah I know what you mean and I get I think it is sometimes I think it is me that's causing it because I think it's when they're little you get everything ready for them but when you then need them to start

getting themselves ready and they just aren't doing it so you become the nag again and

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