It was just a small comment. I really didn't mean a whole lot by it, but suddenly we're in a 10, 15, 25 minute, 35 minute conversation because it didn't go like I planned.

How do you take care of those situations?

How do you talk through them?

I'm Jean Fuller joined by my focus colleagues Aaron and Greg Smalley and Greg it seems like unintentional offenses can just kind of and I one early morning just in our in our bathroom getting ready for the day

she was kind of walking through maybe something that had happened I don't even remember what the

issue was but but it elicited a whole lot of emotion for her.

And in that moment, it felt very overwhelming

how quickly her emotions had escalated.

I don't think the issue was even about me,

but it was just something.

She was just really emotional.

And I was like, whoa, whoa, whoa,

hey, Aaron, calm down.

You gotta relax here. and as you can imagine that small little phrase that the word relax calm down that

turned so ugly for that particular day.

In the lesson though that I learned from that,

it was a powerful moment for me to realize

that behind the relax,

behind the please calm down,

was my discomfort around emotions,

especially hers.

Not knowing really what to do with my own or hers, I'm trying to manage her, control her, so that she calms down so I don't feel so uncomfortable all around emotions.

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