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Allison, welcome to the program.

Hi, Dr. Laura. How are you? It's very nice to talk to you. Thank you for taking my call. You're welcome.

Okay, so I am calling you because I find that I am constantly getting myself into trouble with my reactions. I'm always offended.

I'm just I always have I get into issues with people very easily because of the way I react because I take things personally because I'm extremely sensitive, incredibly sensitive.

And I wanted to know if you have some advice for me to stop. Yes, I do. Yes, I do. Two words. Shut up.

No, seriously. And I'll explain why you can get as offended, upset, annoyed, irritated, frustrated as you'd like. I mean, you can allow your innards to be torn up six ways from Sunday over reacting, taking it personally for whatever reasons that you do.

The part that you do have a decided choice in is whether or not you're going to open your mouth and say anything.

So, you're right. That's the key. Shut up. Feel whatever it is you feel. Who cares?

Your offended doesn't mean something is offensive. Just means you're offended. So what?

None of that matters really in the great scheme of the universe. But what matters is what comes out of your mouth. And if you're getting yourself in trouble with what comes out of your mouth, then learn two two words.

Shut up. And I'm dead serious about this.

It's very difficult. I don't care how difficult it is. What a ridiculous thing to say to me.

What difference does that make? Tell me what difference does it make that something is difficult? Does it mean it should not be done? Does it mean it gives you an excuse to be warm and not do what needs to be done?

Why does anybody say that's harder to do and to say who cares? If something needs to be done, you do it. And you need to shut up more often.

You're so right. You're right. I do.

And you will find over time, weeks, months, years, that over time, you will find yourself less sensitive, less offended.

Because you don't embrace it anymore. Because you don't embrace it anymore. You shut up. Breathe. You breathe.

I mean, I just think I had to do this the other day. Somebody said something and it was. And I just shut up.

Just shut up and it passed and discussions went in different directions and no harm, no foul.

Not everything. Not everything people say. Do they even mean sometimes stuff just comes out stupidly.

So we get all offended and upset. And how does it benefit us? Do you realize what happens to you hormonally in your body when you get very yes, and that is that shows your lifespan?

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