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Katie, welcome to the program.

Hi, Dr. Laura.

My father died last night.

He was 93 years old and it was expected and he was on

hospice care but I just wanted to tell you how you have helped me over the years.

I've had a rocky relationship with them probably most of my adult life and many years ago I used your analogy of letting him go like a hot air balloon and then over over the years as you've talked to more people about that same you know idea or people that have had difficult things with their parents it just reinforced yes I just need to keep that let go you know don't take it back and let go my

expectations of having a great father and about a month ago I decided that I knew he was nearing the end of his life, and I decided to go ahead and fly down to Southern California and see him.

And I went into the acute care center where he was and talked to him.

And about 10 minutes into the conversation, he said, he set up in bed and he opened his eyes real big and he goes you look like my daughter and I said yeah yeah dad I'm your daughter and everything about him changed his whole appearance and his energy and he just remembered things of the past and he forgot

that he was mad at me and he forgot that he was mean and that he shouldn't talk kindly to me. And we had this amazing hour together. And I like this analogy if I flushed the toilet on all the years of pain and anger and disappointment and the apology that I thought

I wanted and how I wanted him to acknowledge all the pain he had caused me, I just let go of it. And he died last night and I'm at peace with the whole thing. I mean I sound emotional right now, but I am just so thankful that you've been in my ear for years

helping me through this difficult time and today I'm okay and it, I just thank you so much.

I'm really moved by what you've said.

Wow, thank you very much for calling to tell me that.

So tell me what you two talked about in that hour.

Oh, we talked about in that hour.

Oh, we talked about all my children and what they're doing.

And he used to play the clarinet and he can't,

he hasn't been able to play it for the last 10 years because he has

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