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Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

I’m Done Being Passive

Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

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Christianity, Religion & Spirituality, Talk Radio, Default

4.8808 Ratings

🗓️ 24 February 2026

⏱️ 31 minutes

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Summary

Today I’m joined by Michelle, who has been on a journey of saying no to passivity. Being the oldest child in the family, she has had a tendency to become more accommodating than she should. This pattern has followed her into her adulthood and developed into passivity. We talk about 3 important mindset shifts that have to happen in order to see assertiveness as the best way to take care of yourself and others. In order for relationships to be healthy, they have to be balanced! Assertiveness is an important people skill, and we talk through it on this episode of Talk To Me! Dig deeper by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold.  The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

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I think that lack of assertiveness and just trying to people please and thinking you're building the relationship but it surface level. And it leads to burnout. Yeah,

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it does. I was feeling in so many ways professionally, physically, mentally, even spiritually. I love

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being a part of the church. I'm Christian. I love to serve there and a mentor of mine told me

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it's okay to say no. It's okay to say no. It's okay to set boundaries. It's okay to rest and

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make sure that you're not getting in God's way too.

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Are you ready to talk to me?

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My name is Deborah Felita and I'm a licensed professional counselor, national speaker, and author.

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Through my blog, books, and podcast, I have the privilege of helping millions of people get healthy mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and relationally.

1:29.3

The purpose of this podcast is to have on-air, authentic, counseling-style sessions where we talk about how people are really doing and give my guests and callers an opportunity to talk to me as a licensed professional counselor. Each of these episodes is meant to show you that we are all

1:35.3

on the journey of healing, mentally, emotionally, spiritually and relationally, together. None of us are

1:43.3

immune to the challenges and struggles of life,

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but we don't have to walk this path alone. I'm so proud and honored to be having these

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conversations with men and women who are courageously paving the way for open and honest

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conversations about their personal journey of healing.

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So if you're ready, let's talk.

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In celebration of my new book People Skills, we're dedicating the next few weeks to

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conversations that will help us better relate to God, self, and others.

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I've opened the hotlines to process topics such as vulnerability,

2:20.3

boundaries, forgiveness, dealing with offense, church hurt, friendship struggles, conflict and

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communication, and so much more. My prayer for this specific series of on-air conversations

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is that as you listen to others processing

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