You're listening to On attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience

relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to

overcome insecurity and build healthy thriving relationships. I'm your

host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment. In today's episode episode I'm going to be answering the community

question of I'm anxious, he's avoidant, is it weird that I want more sex than him?

So this is something that I get asked a lot and I have touched on this dynamic before on the show.

But given the frequency with which I get variations on this question, I think it's important to devote a whole episode to unpacking it. And, you know, spoiler alert, it's not weird at all.

This dynamic is actually extremely common. I would say more common than not. So if you are someone in an anxious

avoidant relationship and you have noticed a mismatch in libido that looks like the anxious partner wanting sex a lot more

than the avoidant partner does. Rest assured you're not alone. It's actually very

very common. So I'm hoping that in today's episode I can

unpack for you why that's not weird, why it actually makes a lot of sense and

you know what the drivers are of that dynamic and you know how you can work with it

rather than exacerbating it because I think most people without the knowledge and awareness of what's going on will personalize this

dynamic and act out from a place of hurt and make it a lot worse and that can be really

challenging because we get stuck there. So that's what we're talking about today.

Before we dive into that, a couple of quick announcements. The first being just another reminder that the wait list for healing anxious attachment is open as at the time of recording there are

over 500 people already on the wait list which is amazing for anyone who's new around here and

I know there are a lot of you who are new. Healing

anxious attachment is my signature program. It's an eight week course. I run it a

couple of times a year and being on the wait list is a no obligation thing. It's just that you'll get notified first when doors open and you'll also access discounted pricing for enrollment.

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