Brought to you by the Every Dollar app. Start budgeting for free today. Well, I worked very, very hard to get

where I'm at. I met my husband in my early 20s, and I had about 20-store credit cards and

6K in debt, and she helped me get out of that. We worked super hard,

saved every dime, didn't go on vacations for decades, put a lot of money towards the

mortgages. Now we live in a great area, our dream house, great location, but I literally have no idea how much money

we have and we're still not going on vacation or living life and I'm just a smart person

that's doing really dumb decisions by not finding this information out and

every time I ask it's not going anywhere and it's not that I don't trust him

because he's very very good with money it's just I think we're going overboard

and what we're doing and I don't know how to kind of get out of this

merry-go-round of just my head stuck in the sand. Why is it that he won't share with his wife

the money that you have? I just never in the beginning because I was the one in debt coming into the

marriage. How long have you been married? 20 years.

I've been married 43.

If the stuff I did stupid in the first seven years of marriage was still counted against me,

I probably wouldn't be alive.

I know.

So I don't, you know, what you did 20 years ago, it doesn't count.

Why is it that 20 years into

your marriage, you don't know what's going on with the money? Why does he not think you're

worthy of that? Probably because I haven't pushed it. You know, every time I push it, he just

doesn't want to get into it, and I just kind of back off. And then I don't fight it.

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