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Back in 2017, my mom passed away when I was 19 and left me an inheritance that included a portion of my father's 401K that she received in the divorce two years prior to her passing.

Um, of that amount, um, my father, um, asked me or requested a $40,000 loan two years ago to assist in his completion of his retirement home,

which is now wife.

Um, and the terms of said loan, um, or a bit ambiguous and, um, I suppose over time,

it's something that, you you know hasn't really been discussed

and I'm just looking for a little bit of guidance on how to you know pose the conversation

and in a way that that doesn't seem you know greedy or or pushing you know I am conscious of the fact that, you know,

at one time it was his money.

So that is something that, you know, I guess.

When it came to you, Matthew, it was not his money.

It was your mom's.

You got to get that out of your head.

How did he ask you for the loan?

He kind of had a do-it-himself-style attitude.

So instead of going the traditional route of, I suppose, construction financing.

No, no, no, no. How did he, by the way, he doesn't have a do-it-yourself because he had to call

his son to borrow money.

So he likes to do it when he's in control.

That's two different things.

How did he ask you for the money?

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