Hey everybody, welcome to Merit and Martini's I'm Adam, here is Danielle.

Hello. Alright, so happy, right? Oh, you're cold, you're going to, you're laughing. I know. I have had this cough for like weeks and there's no way we're not even going to be able to edit it out. No, I'm not going to. It's like I feel like I'm like an 80 year old smoker, which if I am 81 day, I will be a smoker. Well, in 40 years, you're going to have that 80 year old smoker. No, I don't smoke that much, but I, I will start

smoking again. Right. And then I will be so happy. Right. Episode over. Yeah. How do you want to be happy? There you go. Happiness is smoking cigarettes because you don't care anymore. Right. Well, according to Oprah.com. Yeah, shit. I am happy. So they have this, this, um, not a schedule. They, uh, what's their call day? Where is? Alright, they have a quiz and they grade you with.

If you're happy or not, if you score between a 50 or and a 72, you're happy. Oh, below average. That's perfect for you. 50 to 72 below average. Okay. Well, I scored a 50. I am happy. You're on the lower side of the low average. That's fine. That's failing. Usually 50. But as long as the end result is that I'm happy, whether it's a 50 or a 72 bucket. I'm happy. I love that we can just take a quiz and find out if we're happy or not.

That makes things so much easier. That's what the internet is great for. Right. Quizzes. Quizzes. Yeah. And I know who, which friend I am on the front show. Oh, which friend. I really don't know. I'm just saying there's all those quizzes online. You could definitely find out. Um, oh, that's funny. Yeah. I, I, I would, I wonder if Oprah is happy. I want to know if Oprah is happy. She's got to be right. I know it's not just money. We will get into that. But I mean, she's. I hope she is.

All like good people around her, right? Like, yeah, but she also has like a ton of stress. I'm sure. I mean, all of all of that comes with a ton of stress. She all get to that too. You know, she constantly is being sued and everything. Yeah, we'll get to all that stuff. Okay. Not the Oprah stuff, but the surrounding things of what would make her unhappy. What made you want to do happy? So this woman named Susan Kane just put out her second book.

She has a book called Bittersweet, you know, she has these national best sellers. And she really studies sadness. And I'm interested. Very much in sadness. Right. I'm interested in how we sort of lean into it. And. I do think like naturally I feel sad a lot of the time. Um, I also feel like I feel. I don't want to say happy because I really think that I'm turned off by that word now. But I also feel fulfilled a lot of the time. And I feel sad.

And I feel like I am a type of person who is like I have these multi-layered right like I have all these emotions going on at once always

I'm it's never just one emotion and so I guess that I'm interested in the idea of the pursuit of happiness

That there's this sort of like pot of gold at the end of the rainbow that we're all supposed to be on this journey to reach

Okay, what nothing? I'm just thinking the whole time that you're talking about this

There's no such thing nobody is just happy everything that you're saying

I think we all go through we all feel we're all sad sometimes. We're all happy sometimes

We're all there's no ultimate happy

Yes, right like not is there anybody who is just

Has a hundred percent happiness in their lives?

Well, I don't know because I don't know if they are being truthful even if they present that way, right?

So it's hard to know because people who often seem happy. I'm not even talking about our perception of them

I'm just saying you know somebody who inside just feels 100% happy all the time

Everything is perfect in their lives and there are a few people who I know who I'm always like

Wow, they just kind of seem very

content, you know, like they just sort of seem to go through life like

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