I Keep Getting Hurt By Friends

Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

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Christianity, Religion & Spirituality, Talk Radio, Default

4.8 • 808 Ratings

🗓️ 24 March 2026

⏱️ 21 minutes

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What do you do when you keep hitting a wall trying to go deeper in friendship? Today, I’m joined by Nicole who is feeling hurt by the cycle of trying to go deeper with friends, but finding herself at a dead end. She’s feeling discouraged and wondering if it’s even possible to connect with people on the level that she’s desiring for friendship. I challenge her to dig deeper into some of her personal fears and triggers that might lie underneath the surface, particularly regarding rejection wounds, and then I give her practical steps for what to do next when you want to go deeper in friendship. If you’re struggling to find the right fit in friendships, you have to listen to this episode! We cover this and more, in today’s episode of Talk To Me! Dig deeper into going deeper in your friendships and connections by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold. The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

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0:00.0	Access more.
0:10.5	So then what happens after the disagreements come?
0:14.8	Yeah, so I will typically try to just have more of a conversation as non-judgmental as possible.
0:22.6	Because I think that that's something that that is important to be able to respect individuals
0:27.3	with different opinions and perspectives and their life experiences.
0:32.3	What ends up happening is it feels like I tend to end up helping other people process more
0:36.8	their previous hurts. And then to end up helping other people process more their previous hurts.
0:38.3	And then I end up feeling hurt and I try to do my best to still maintain those relationships,
0:46.3	but either they end up pulling away or I will pull away because I feel like it is safer for myself to do that as well.
1:01.9	Are you ready to talk to me? My name is Deborah Felata and I'm a licensed professional
1:07.1	counselor, national speaker, and author. Through my blog, books, and podcast, I have the
1:12.9	privilege of helping millions of people get healthy mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and
1:18.2	relationally. The purpose of this podcast is to have on-air, authentic, counseling-style sessions,
1:25.7	where we talk about how people are really doing and give my guests
1:29.8	and callers an opportunity to talk to me as a licensed professional counselor. Each of these
1:35.6	episodes is meant to show you that we are all on the journey of healing, mentally, emotionally,
1:42.0	spiritually and relationally, together.
1:45.4	None of us are immune to the challenges and struggles of life, but we don't have to walk this path alone.
1:53.7	I'm so proud and honored to be having these conversations with men and women who are
1:58.9	courageously paving the way for open and honest conversations
2:02.3	about their personal journey of healing. So if you're ready, let's talk. In celebration of my new
2:10.9	book People Skills, we're dedicating the next few weeks to conversations that will help us
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