You know one of the biggest reasons why advice unsolicited advice puts walls up in a relationship is because it feels disrespectful

Even though again, it's usually well intended, but generally the message we send when we just jump in with advice

is, I can fix this.

Like, you clearly can't figure it out,

but I know the solution.

Let me just tell you how to fix it

so we can move on with our lives. What's our real ones? Welcome back to the relationship podcast where we're bringing the real back to relationships.

Yes, sir. I'm Aisha Steele. I'm Devon Steele. And we're so excited that you guys are tuning in today with us.

Especially for this episode because we have a guest that we're excited to hear from and I'm sure a lot of you are excited to hear from.

We taught a lot about his work on some of our Instagram Live and even on some of our episodes

about learning how to validate your partner and being an active

listener in a relationship. Without further ado, ladies and gentlemen, let's welcome

Michael Sorsen to the podcast. Yes, welcome. So tell us why this book and why now why did you feel like this was necessary in this day and age?

You know it's funny I I always like to tell people that I'm not a therapist I wasn't even a writer or an author prior to writing that book and I guess everyone has their first book but I never thought that I wanted to write a book.

You know, some people sit out and say,

I just want to be a published author.

I just want to have this.

That wasn't me.

You know, I got into this topic that we're going to talk about here

a number of years ago when I started going to therapy

to get help working through a number of different issues in my life,

relationships being one of them. And I remember after several years starting to see the

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