I Have a Hard Time Saying No

Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Debra Fileta, M.A., LPC and Creator of TrueLoveDates.com

Self-improvement, Relationships, Education, Religion & Spirituality, Christianity, Society & Culture

4.9 • 757 Ratings

🗓️ 3 June 2025

⏱️ 27 minutes

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Why is it that some people have a harder time saying no, and setting boundaries than others? Today on the podcast, Ashley calls in to talk to me about her struggle with saying no. She has a really hard time, feels guilty, and ends up feeling drained and depleted. I help her dig into the reasons why she struggles to say no, and what to do about it. If you struggle with boundaries, and saying no — this episode is for you. You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	part of it is like you know growing up in the church and everything you i feel like at least me personally
0:08.8	i very rarely heard oh listen to your feelings listen to your thoughts you know listen to what you need
0:15.6	it was always just then within the church too you hear a lot of do for others, do for others, do for others. And I love
0:21.7	others. Like, don't get me wrong. I love the people around me. I love my third community, my fellow
0:26.4	Christians, my best friends and stuff. And so I think that's also part of where the mentality comes from
0:30.7	is it's kind of like, okay, let me do this for them. Let me do this for them. Let me do this for them.
0:40.5	Are you ready to talk to me? My name is Deborah Felita and I'm a licensed professional
0:45.6	counselor, national speaker, and author. Through my blog, books, and podcast, I have the
0:51.4	privilege of helping millions of people get healthy mentally, emotionally,
0:56.0	spiritually, and relationally. The purpose of this podcast is to have on-air, authentic,
1:02.5	counseling-style sessions where we talk about how people are really doing and give my guests
1:08.3	and callers an opportunity to talk to me as a licensed professional
1:12.5	counselor. Each of these episodes is meant to show you that we are all on the journey of healing,
1:18.8	mentally, emotionally, spiritually and relationally, together. None of us are immune to the
1:26.2	challenges and struggles of life, but we don't have to walk this path alone.
1:32.2	I'm so proud and honored to be having these conversations with men and women who are courageously paving the way for open and honest conversations about their personal journey of healing.
1:43.5	So if you're ready, let's talk.
1:48.1	Today on the show, we have Ashley from California calling. Hi, Ashley. Hi, thank you so much for
1:55.1	having me. It's so nice to meet you. Meet you too. Tell me how you and I got connected.
2:01.3	So I actually, my friend recommended your podcast to me way back in 2020 when everything
2:08.5	had shut down and she was like, I came across this book called Love in Every Season,
2:14.2	and I've been listening to her podcast and you have to check it out. And so I,
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