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Thank you, nephew's subject. I have the drummer, but I want the pastor. Dear Stephen Shirley,

about a year ago, I left my home church to join another church. I was dating the church's

drummer, and he invited me to join. I fell in love with the atmosphere of the church, and the senior

pastor was really good. When I joined, I was asked to help put together a praise dance team.

I enlisted the help of the associate pastor to help me. The associate pastor is only three

years older than me, and we connected on so many levels. We went to the same college, and we

have the same favorite restaurant. I was interested in getting to know him better, but I was in a

relationship with the drummer. One Saturday, I was in a relationship with the drummer.

One Saturday, I was at a praise dance practice with the youth, and the associate pastor brought

my lunch from my favorite restaurant.

After practice, we ate together and had a great conversation.

He said that my boyfriend, the drummer, is a ladies man and has been with several women in the church.

That put me at ease about breaking up with the drummer so I could pursue the associate pastor.

A month after I ended my relationship, I told the associate pastor how I felt about him.

We talked on the phone off and on, so I figured

it was okay to let him know. He invited me to his place to talk. One thing led to another,

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