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Self-Helpless

I Fell In Love (While Married To Someone Else) with Amber Rae

Self-Helpless

Crossover Media Group

Comedy, Science, Alternative Health, Health & Fitness, Education

4.83K Ratings

🗓️ 4 August 2025

⏱️ 60 minutes

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Summary

Delanie Fischer is joined by Amber Rae, author of Loveable, to unpack what it was like to fall in love—while married to somebody else. She shares her feelings, and logistics, around leaving a marriage that felt like a friendship, the days leading up to the decision (including the moment she knew it was time to go), transforming internalized shame, where both she and her ex-husband are now in love and life, and lessons learned—as well as the ones that are a work in progress.

Plus:

+ 3 Game-Changing Tips for Writers and Creatives

+ What Your Anger Might Be Telling You

+ Amber's Favorite Journaling Exercise

Amber's new book, Loveable


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0:00.0

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0:05.2

from Lily Chew. The exquisitely talented Philippa Sue, returning to narrate her fifth

0:10.2

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0:15.5

set in Toronto's wealthy cottage country, aka the Hamptons of Canada, rich girl Summer follows the story of Valerie,

0:22.1

a down-on-her-luck event planner posing as a socialite's long-lost daughter, while piecing

0:26.5

together the secrets surrounding a mysterious family and falling deeper and deeper in love with the

0:31.7

impossibly hard to read and infuriatingly handsome family assistant, Nico. Caught between pretending to belong

0:38.2

and unexpectedly finding where she truly fits in,

0:41.3

Valerie learns her summer is about to get far more complicated

0:44.0

than she ever planned.

0:45.8

She's in over her head and head over heels.

0:48.5

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0:51.2

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0:54.4

I'm no good. I take in good advice. And I'm self-careless, so don't tell me twice that lately I've been so stuck in my head that I forget just about everything my therapist said maybe I'm self-helpless.

1:15.5

Hey everyone, welcome to self-helpless. I'm Delaney Fisher and today I'm chatting with Amber Ray,

1:20.3

who is the author of Lovable and this newest book of hers that comes out tomorrow is about

1:26.0

her experience falling in love with someone

1:28.6

while she was married to somebody else. So we're talking about a lot of stuff today, the feelings

1:33.6

and logistics that arose because of this decision to leave her marriage at the time. You'll hear

1:39.2

more in a second, but she describes her marriage with her ex as a strong friendship, but that it was lacking the romantic part of a relationship that she wanted.

1:47.7

But she had gotten so used to telling herself that it was fine, everything was okay.

1:53.7

She was used to being a bit detached from her feelings and pushing things down.

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