I Fell For My Best Friend

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

Esther Perel Global Media

Mental Health, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Education, Health & Fitness

4.7 • 15.6K Ratings

🗓️ 4 August 2025

⏱️ ? minutes

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Summary

He fell in love with his best friend. But when his best friend reconnected with an ex, it was too much to bear and he had to end the friendship. He wonders how to let himself fall in love again and move into the next chapter of his life. Esther Callings are a one time, 45-60 minute interventional phone call with Esther. They are edited for time, clarity, and anonymity. If you have a question you would like to talk through with Esther, send a voice memo to [email protected]. Want to learn more? Receive monthly insights, musings, and recommendations to improve your relational intelligence via email from Esther: https://www.estherperel.com/newsletter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hello Esther. My question is centered on a previous friendship of mine with the best friend who is no longer in my life.
0:09.3	I fell in love with my best friend who shared unrequited feelings for me and our friendship became so intimate that I got to a point where it hurt too much to just be friends with him.
0:23.5	So I told him we needed to take an undetermined amount of time apart from seeing each other.
0:29.2	My question for you is twofold.
0:31.7	How do I navigate this heartbreak and confusion for someone who truly felt like calm to me and experienced a transcendent love with.
0:40.6	And secondly, how can I learn to let go and open myself up to new potential romantic partners?
0:47.0	I really struggle with comparing potential partners to him.
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1:40.3	Sometimes we have the urge to reach into the past and grab onto the regrets or lost connections that have shaped us.
1:48.6	These moments have a way of making us wonder.
1:51.5	What if things had gone differently?
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