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Try-Em 11. Juliana, welcome to the program. Hi, Dr. Leris. Hi. What can I do for you?

Um, you know, I was just going over my head. Kind of think it's pretty silly now. Um, no, no, no, no, no tearing yourself down. Just tell me what you called for. Come on.

I called, um, I work on a farm and farm work is obviously hard and much appreciated. However, there are benefits and there are some disadvantages for working on a farm.

And I got this job from a family friend and I mean, I appreciate and I don't want to act like I'm not.

I appreciate the opportunity, but, um, it's been rough and person I work for.

Yeah. I have to like, I sound like such a.

Can you not tear yourself down again? I notice you have a tiny pattern of being negative about yourself. Can we avoid that in my conversation with you? Please no tearing yourself down when you with me. Okay.

So the person you work for is what? Just say it. He can be a disrespectful and sometimes with feeling and incompetent.

I'm working for him. Is it because you're still learning? Is it because you're still learning? Or because you're negative about yourself as a bad habit? Yeah.

Notice I keep bringing that up.

I just spoke to you. Are you going to speak back to me? Yeah. I do see that the habit. Yes. And when you are so negative about yourself, it throws a shadow on everything.

Like learning means there's stuff you don't know that you have to learn and sometimes it's tough and embarrassing and uncomfortable until you figure it out and learn it.

But you can say makes me feel incompetent. Well, until you know something, you don't know it. So I don't know if he's really being bad or you're just so quick to the draw to be negative about yourself.

Okay. Which do you think is more likely?

I want to take responsibility because it's partly my fault for what's your not not know I guess not knowing things.

I mean people you mean so six year old kids when they go to kindergarten are bad and it's their fault that they have to learn the alphabet.

No. Well, that's what you're telling me you're telling me and if you don't if you haven't learned something yet, there's something wrong with you and you're bad and you're incompetent and stupid and this is what I hear from you.

Where'd you get this thinking? Where did you get this thinking?

It started when I first started working here.

No, I think it started years before that.

Yeah, my home was in a very unstable.

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