This is the Ramsey Call of the Day, part of the Ramsey Network.

Lincoln's with us in Dayton, Ohio.

Hey, Lincoln, what's up?

Hey, Dave.

Thank you so much for all that you guys do.

I, we, my wife and I, I I am 27 and my wife's 24, and we have

paid off about $30,000 worth of debt since November. Great. But we still have, we still have 40,000

more and she's actually going back to get her master's in education.

And she wants to, basically the main premise of my question is my wife likes to upgrade a lot of things very quickly.

And she likes paying off debt, but not to the point where she doesn't get what she wants.

And so it leads up to me having to say no to a lot of decisions on things that she wants, and I feel like a parent

in our marriage. I don't want to feel like a parent to my wife. So I don't know if you have any

insight on that. Well, I sense that you're feeling some resentment towards her because you don't

want a baby here, but I want to have you look in the mirror and go, maybe I haven't done a good job

getting us on the same page.

Mm-hmm.

And is that not the problem?

You're not on the same page when it comes to what your goals are and then what our actions are to get there.

Yeah, that could definitely be a fair point.

It's hard to get other people to be excited about your goal.

It's hard to get other people to be excited about your goal. It's hard to get other people to be excited about your goal.

This ain't her goal.

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