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of the day comes from shana in canada yeah she says i'm seeking advice on how to explain the benefits

of combining our accounts to my husband he brings in the majority of income as i'm a part-time teacher and mom. He often has to

electronically transfer money to me, which I've explained feels degrading. I want us to be a team,

but he refuses to budge on linking our accounts. What should I say to him? I feel as if I'm a burden.

I am so sorry. Oh gosh, I'm so sorry. It shouldn't

feel that way. I have things I want to say, but John, nope, you say it. Okay, I was going to say,

I thought I saw a twinkle in your eye, but I'll get into it. It was rage. It was anger is what you saw.

Yeah. You know, first off, I just want to affirm that, yeah, you're right. You should be combining accounts. And I love that you've, it sounds like you've used a great vocabulary in explaining the way this feels. You're saying, hey, this is degrading to me. I feel like I'm a burden to you. It's not just like, we should combine our money. And you're keeping us from doing that. It doesn't sound like, it sounds like you've expressed yourself well on this. And I hate that

he has disregarded your emotions. This is a case for counseling and counseling alone. And I'll

let John get into the rest. I mean, I just think anytime you look at a romantic partner and say the thing, this

thing that you're doing is degrading to me. And they look at you and go, I don't care. Then your

relationship has fundamental foundational issues. This isn't about money and savings accounts.

Oh, you're beyond that. This is about power. And I feel like i'm just a bill that you have to pay every

month you are you are well then there's a part of me and i i i don't like reading into people's

situations when i don't have all the information but i think we've done this long enough that we

kind of start to know it always for me there's this piece of it like, okay, but then what are you

hiding? Always. What are you hiding? Always. You know, if you don't want me to see this, if I can't

have access to it, if I have to ask you, what is it that you're trying to keep me from?

Or what are you spending money on that you don't want me to know about? Yeah. Right. And

anytime you're in a relationship with anybody,

mother, daughter, father, son, romantic work relationship,

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