Today's question comes to us from a quote, slightly confused sister in the Lord.

In quote, Hello Pastor John, I was wondering if you could help me think through two questions.

First, I have a deep burden and desire for missions as a calling.

This is true of me and brings me a lot of joy.

However, it also brings confusion, especially in dating.

I feel guilty and fostering relationships with wonderful men who don't share my calling.

Would I be in sin if I married a godly man who didn't share my calling to missions?

Second, while I feel inspired to spread the gospel to unreached people, I don't feel

called the minister in remote places and much more drawn to international cities.

I wonder if this helps alleviate the first question.

In APJ 1422, you said quote, marriage is not fundamentally the linking of arms in the

pursuit of an agree-to-pawn vocation.

You seem to have a less restrictive view on calling.

What thoughts can you offer to me as a woman who does not have the gift of singleness

to think through missions and marriage?

Last night, as I was thinking about this question, I asked my wise wife if she had any thoughts

about it, and I suppose it's because we've shared life for 52 years that the first thing

that she said was the first thing that was coming to my mind as well.

She said, I suppose it hangs a lot on the seriousness and confidence about her calling

to missions.

As our young friend had said, I have a deep burden and desire for missions as a calling.

And I think Noel and I would say, that's serious, you're right about that.

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