I Don't Want My Son To Be a Rescuer

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🗓️ 22 July 2022

⏱️ 4 minutes

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I Don't Want My Son To Be a Rescuer - Tom is worried that his teenage son is trying to rescue the teen daughter of a friend who recently committed suicide. - Dr. Laura: "Talk to your son about what he's feeling and educate him on appropriate ways to respond." - Are you more likely to discuss things with your teenager or restrict them as a way to protect? Email me your thoughts at: drlaura@drlaura.com | To participate on the radio program; call 1-800-Dr-Laura / 1-800-375-2872 or make an appointment - https://www.drlaura.com/make-an-appointment. Become a Dr. Laura Family Member: https://www.drlaura.com/ See https://www.drlaura.com/privacy-policy for privacy information.

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0:00.0	Thanks for listening to my call of the day podcast. You can hear my live radio program Monday through Friday from two to five PM Eastern time on serious XM triumph 11. Tom welcome to the program.
0:13.0	Hi, Dr. Laura. Thanks for taking my call.
0:16.0	I have a complicated situation. I was hoping you could help me with.
0:25.0	I have a friend had a friend. I'm sorry who got divorced. He subsequently killed himself.
0:36.0	I have a, he has a teenage daughter. I have a teenage son.
0:44.0	We have been lifelong friends with with these folks for forever. The kids grew up together. They're, they're pretty close friends.
0:54.0	There was, you know, kind of a childhood.
1:01.0	Puppy love kind of a thing. We've never let that get too far because they're still fairly young.
1:09.0	The question is, how do I establish some boundaries? I'm a little bit worried that the his teenage daughter and my teenage son are going to end up.
1:22.0	If my boy is going to try to rescue. She's looking for some security.
1:27.0	Sit down with your son. It's not a matter of boundaries, sir. It's a matter of parental education.
1:36.0	You need to educate your boy and how to deal with these situations, which are not easy to deal with.
1:42.0	And they are very mixed up. So you sit down with him and say, I bet you feel that you wish you could rescue her.
1:49.0	So she was not upset anymore. Tell me about those feelings. You sit and talk to your kid.
1:56.0	And then you say it's not unusual. I'm talking. Let me finish. If you'd like to know more information.
2:02.0	That you talk to him like it's not unusual, especially for males, boys, men to want to rescue women.
2:10.0	And feel important and feel magical and feel good.
2:15.0	It doesn't mean you can really rescue nor should you really even try to rescue.
2:21.0	So let's talk about the feelings you have because I bet they're kind of confusing because they're confusing to me too.
2:27.0	You converse with your boy so that he has an understanding of his feelings and what is being asked of him at one particular circumstance.
2:36.0	What's a reasonable request? What's not? So you discuss it with him. You educate him.
2:42.0	You don't make boundaries.
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