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Hi, Dr. Laura. Long, long time listener, second time caller. You had helped me with the family issue.

And for that, I wanted to say thank you first. I'm calling today about something different. I it's a pretty fresh. I just lost my husband last Friday, so six days ago to calling cancer.

And it happened very fast. He was diagnosed in the September of this last year and then passed away January 20th. I'm calling. I'm I'm going through obviously, you know, all the emotions of grieving. I'm going to pull over here just in case I get choked up, but I will do my best.

And one of the things that is really, really bothering me is I made one promise to him, he asked me to make a promise to him that I did.

And I did not fulfill. He asked me to whatever I did to please don't let him die in the hospital.

And I made that promise to him. We were able to go home and do a hospice home.

But our hospice company that we were with was severely understaffed. And so they were only able to stay with us for about six days.

And, you know, I guess I think had that continued, I probably would have been able to make it. But once they didn't have any help anymore, I was having to do it by myself with a friend.

And after day three, I just I couldn't do it anymore. It was the cancer had traveled to his liver, his lungs and his brain. And once it got there, he was, you know, just very mentally gone and started getting, you know, combative and everything. And I just kept telling myself, you know, I'm going to do the best I can to I'll just I will sell it to you.

And I can't I'll just I will suffer in order to fulfill that one promise that I make.

But I look at one Sunday morning and I just hit my wall and I had to call for help. And so they moved him to an impatient unit where he was for six days. And there he passed away.

And he coherent those last six days, did he know who you were, did you know who he was, where he was. So all he knows, he died knowing that you fulfilled your promise.

His brain died. And his body didn't listen to me carefully. Don't start talking. His brain was dead.

But his body died later. So for the time that you made the promise for which is he knows what's going on. He was home.

He was only not home when his brain did not know what was going on. You fulfilled the promise.

I needed to hear that. Thank you. You completely fulfilled the promise. He did not want to know, be aware of dying any place but home. And that's what he got. He didn't know when he died.

Do you see what I mean? Yes, me and my dude. And he did rally a couple days and he was at home and I took advantage of those two days. But he still knew when he then he knows you fulfilled the promise.

Okay.

His brain and body did not go on the same day, but you can't hold that against yourself.

Okay. I won't.

So you did exactly what you said and you gave him that piece. Good for you.

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