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Welcome back to I Choose Me.

My guest, Valerie Bertinelli, has embraced the idea of showing up perfectly imperfect in ways that feel brave and deeply human.

Our conversation about her new memoir, Getting Naked, continues now with even more truth

and the courage to be seen as you are.

Okay, first things first.

The subtitle of your book, Getting Naked, is The Quiet Work of Becoming Perfectly Imperfect.

Why?

Because I've tried my whole life to be perfect, to be the perfect angel, to be the perfect actress, to be the perfect worker bee, to do everything perfect.

And it's impossible.

And if I wanted to get out of that loop, that crazy cycle, I had to be okay with it being

imperfect because I was still doing my best.

And just because you're doing your best doesn't mean it's going to be perfect.

And it is a quiet work because...

Yeah, I was going to ask you about that. You call it a quiet work. It is a very quiet work because it's between your brain and your heart and your heart and your brain and your emotions and quietly being curious about your emotions and letting your brain, oh, our brains are so

magical. The neuroplasty is like you can form and shape your brain into anything you want.

You can, and if you can tell yourself you're a terrible human being, you can also tell yourself, I'm really good. I'm really good at

this. Maybe that's not my gift, but this is my gift. Or maybe, like, not everybody's great at

everything. Find what you're great at. If you're, just, you can, you can tell yourself anything, and you will believe it. So you want to believe the good stuff.

Make sure it's good. Yeah. Make sure you're giving yourself the good message. Because you deserve that too.

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