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Frank, welcome to the program. Hi Dr Laura. Hi, what's up? So I've been married

a long time and my wife's always told me that he can't be emotionally

safe around me so for a lot of years I didn't understand that. I knew what

she was saying but I really didn't understand it. I'm kind of, you know, grew up,

you know, not being sensitive or, you know, hugs and all that, you know, mushy

stuff that that's kind of how my wife is. And so I need some help in understanding that and how to get myself because

when we get a lot of arguments, I begin to get upset and frustrated because, you know, I concentrate on kind of, you know, of what was said as opposed to being there for as she would call it instead of worrying

about you know the contents of the argument as opposed to just being there for her to support her.

So every time you have an argument she wants you to support her because she's

right? Is that what she says? Not that she's right, but that, you know, I'm going to be an example of what happened this morning.

Good.

So she, her family is going through a lot of health issues.

Two of them have cancer and then her other, he is also in the hospital. She lost all of her from her waist down.

We also have, on our home, we had some water damage damage is there a lot of stuff going on.

Earlier in our marriage she had it became, she had been depressed where I was working and she was staying home with the kids.

And but she got really depressed because we had lost two.

We have two boys and we had lost to it.

She was on the only way she came out of her depression was taking

anti-depressants.

Well, that was a conversation this morning and that everything was going on her doctor recommended her to get

on antidepressants and I said you know maybe you should consider that.

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