Hi, this is Natalie Hoffman of Flying Free Now.com, and you're listening to the

Flying Free Podcast, a support resource for Women of faith, looking for hope and healing from hidden

emotional and spiritual abuse.

Welcome to episode 39 of the Flying Free Podcast. Today Rachel and I are going to be talking

we're going to be actually answering a question and hello Rachel.

Hey!

She's going to actually read the question and then we're going to dig in and talk about it.

So go ahead.

Here we go.

My biggest challenge is currently trying to stop thinking and obsessing about the marriage and whether there's any hope for us getting back together.

Will he change the emotional abuse of behavior?

Also, although he's not good for me, I still feel a very strong

attraction and impining for him. And he takes up so much of my thoughts and my heart

feels heavy. Is this trauma bonding? How can I recover from this? I find it

especially difficult when well-meaning pastors say things like God put you together. So do, don't let the enemy steal your marriage and that it's always

possible for change etc it makes me procrastinate even more I'm trying to do no contact

and I'm amazed at how tough I'm finding it.

So is this trauma bonding? I think we can say yes.

Yeah and that and so Rachel, I actually looked this up online. I found a little article on Wikipedia, so if anyone wants to look up the article.

Just all you have to do is Google Trauma Bonding and this little

article will come up and trauma bonding is the intermittent reinforcement of

reward and punishment that's where that's how you become trauma bondage. So when you think about abuse

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