I Can't Love You the Way You Want Me To

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

Esther Perel Global Media

Mental Health, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Education, Health & Fitness

4.7 • 15.6K Ratings

🗓️ 14 April 2025

⏱️ 64 minutes

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Summary

Their relationship is on the edge. They're grappling with communication issues and the emotional scars from their past. And they're trapped. Trapped in an endless cycle of blame, defensiveness, and attack. Esther tries to help them notice their patterns of escalation and break the cycle they keep finding themselves in. Topic - Conflict & Polarization Want to learn more? Receive monthly insights, musings, and recommendations to improve your relational intelligence via email from Esther: https://www.estherperel.com/newsletter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	The phrase that was, is used often is, you can't love me the way I want to be loved.
0:06.3	That's, that's the recurring thing throughout the years.
0:13.7	None of the voices in this series are ongoing patients of Esther Perel.
0:18.4	Each episode of Where Should We Begin is a one-time counseling session.
0:22.7	For the purposes of maintaining confidentiality, names and some identifiable characteristics have been
0:28.6	removed, but their voices and their stories are real.
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1:52.8	see their So Win collection. When a couple comes to see me, there's often one person who has reached out,
2:06.2	and that person is either familiar with the process of a therapy session,
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