"I Can Love AND Hate My Dad" - Rex Heuermann's Daughter's HEARTBREAKING Journey to Accepting Truth

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🗓️ 26 June 2025

⏱️ 29 minutes

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"I Can Love AND Hate My Dad" - Rex Heuermann's Daughter's HEARTBREAKING Journey to Accepting Truth

This is the most psychologically complex footage from any true crime documentary - a daughter processing in REAL TIME that her father might be a serial killer. Psychotherapist Shavaun Scott helps us understand Victoria Heuermann's impossible journey.

Victoria was Rex Heuermann's protégé, working at his architecture firm when he was arrested. In an instant, she lost:

Her father, mentor, and employer
Her entire professional identity
Her privacy (every Google search links her to murder)
Her ability to form new relationships without explaining

Most haunting: She was 10-13 years old during the Gilgo Four murders. Doing homework while dad allegedly hunted. At school while he allegedly disposed of bodies.

Key psychological insights: 🧠 The 90/10 split - Rex was present 90% of the time, absent during every murder 🎨 Victoria now creates "disturbing artwork" processing trauma 💔 "Ambiguous loss" - grieving someone still alive but not who you thought 🔍 Why she needs evidence strong enough to override 20+ years of memories 😢 Secondary victimization - becoming a "laughingstock" for crimes she didn't commit

Most powerful moment: Victoria explains how love and hate can coexist. You can despise someone's actions while carrying love for who they were to you.

While mom Asa remains in complete denial, Victoria shows the painful path toward acceptance - from "I looked up to him" (past tense) to believing he's "most likely guilty."

This isn't just about one family's tragedy. It's about recognizing that evil doesn't announce itself. Sometimes it looks like a father who's present 90% of the time.

#RexHeuermann #VictoriaHeuermann #GilgoBeachKiller #TrueCrime #TraumaRecovery #AmbiguousLoss #SerialKillerFamily #PsychologicalAnalysis #SecondaryVictims #LongIslandSerialKiller

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