Hi peeps, Help Me Be Me is underfunded and needs your help. If you enjoy listening to this or it helps you at all,

please visit Help Me Be Me.com and click donate or visit me on Patreon. Thanks. Hi friends it's Sarah May. So this is a little impromptu power up episode and it's just something I've been thinking

about today that I thought might be helpful.

If you're having a bad day or you're having a hard time with a person in particular or something

you've been struggling with in particular, this is just a little reflection exercise I want to do with you. I want you to think about that thing that's

bugging you. Maybe it's a conflict, maybe it's something you've been telling yourself all day that makes you feel

shitty maybe it's some buddy in your life that you've been fighting with or

just a negative thought from today.

So just grab that thought and now I want you to examine kind of what it is in a sentence,

like what is the first person version of that statement?

Is it this person doesn't care about me or it's taking me so long to get to this place or I wish I didn't

have to go through things like this or I wish just wasn't taking me so long. Just think about it in terms of how you would voice it to yourself.

Now what I want you to think about in this moment is at any given time in your life you can always be happy or you can be unhappy. And the trick to being happy really comes

down to a decision. It always comes down to a conscious choice and I say that with the caveat that I've been in the place where it's pretty much impossible where your body is just overcome

So I'm leaving out the moments of extreme excruciating trauma and pain and those kinds of unhappy.

Those are exempt from this category, but I would say in an average situation even if you have gone through

a lot of pain or even if you have completely valid reasons to be unhappy, it really comes down to where are you going to place your focus.

And you can always focus on something in, I think of it, as everything is having two sides like it's the

opposite side of a coin so for example people that are overly boastful are

actually insecure it's the other side of that coin. And the same goes for if you are in,

if you live passionately, if you have a lot of love and you feel, you experience a lot of joy and you also experience a lot of pain, that that's just the flip side of what comes with life. So you can also look at every experience you have

in either the light or the dark. It's just a decision. And so to train this in I mean it's like you have to almost practice it

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