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Do The Thing, with Whole30's Melissa Urban

I Am Racist | Just Melissa

Do The Thing, with Whole30's Melissa Urban

Melissa Urban

Health & Fitness

4.71.3K Ratings

🗓️ 16 June 2020

⏱️ 47 minutes

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Summary

I’ve been on hiatus for several months now, and I’m not exactly tiptoeing back in, #blacklivesmatter. I’m also going to say the word “racist” a lot. If that makes you uncomfortable, this episode is definitely for you. Today, I’m talking to my white listeners about my own anti-racism work, through the lens of the Four Question framework of Byron Katie. The Four Questions have been helping me identify stressful thoughts and move past them into growth and action for more than five years. In this episode, I’ll be applying the Four Questions to my own stories around what it means to be racist. Was it fun? Not exactly. Did it move me past my own shame, guilt, and defensiveness so I can be a better ally out in the world? One hundred percent. Follow along if you are also invested in or just beginning to do your own anti-racism work. All sponsorship income from the remainder of Season 2 of Do the Thing will be extended to the Movement for Black Lives. Learn more at m4bl.org. Continue the conversation with me @melissau on Instagram. If you have a question for Dear Melissa or a topic idea for the show, leave me a voicemail at (321) 209-1480. Do the Thing is part of The Onward Project, a family of podcasts brought together by Gretchen Rubin—all about how to make your life better. Check out the other Onward Project podcasts—Happier with Gretchen Rubin, Side Hustle School, Happier in Hollywood, and Everything Happens. If you liked this episode, please subscribe, leave a 5-star review, and tell your friends to Do the Thing.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0

Hi, my name is Melissa Urban, and you're listening to Do The Thing, a

0:08.0

podcast where we explore what's been missing every time you've tried to make a change and make it stick.

0:14.0

I've been on hiatus for the last few months to recover from some health challenges, particularly

0:25.8

ongoing symptoms related to a concussion I sustained more than a year ago.

0:30.6

I'm going to talk about that next week.

0:32.2

In fact, that episode was the one I planned on

0:34.8

releasing first now that season 2 is back. I recorded that episode about six weeks ago

0:40.5

when we were in the thick of COVID and shelter in place and when self-care and stress

0:45.4

resilience were at the top of everyone's mind.

0:48.8

Today, however, though the pandemic and aftermath of unemployment and financial insecurity presses on, the bodies and the call to action that Black Lives Matter.

1:04.0

And I couldn't in good conscious err an episode about cold showers without first speaking

1:08.9

to the revolution this country is currently witnessing.

1:12.5

So I went back to the drawing board working closely with Dr. Carey Coley Merchison, Whole 30s Director

1:18.3

of People and Culture, to think about what would be impactful in this moment for my largely white, largely female audience.

1:27.6

This episode I'm about to share is for you. If you're black, indigenous, or a non-black person of color, of course you can listen.

1:36.5

But here, as part of my own anti-racism work, I'm having a conversation with my white

1:40.9

listeners to show them some of the introspection and self-awareness

1:44.8

exercises I've done in my own life to help me better ally for you.

1:49.0

And by the way for those of you wondering well why didn't you just have Coley on this first

1:53.7

podcast?

1:54.7

Y'all, she's tired.

1:56.6

Coley has been working so hard these last few weeks, especially.

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