Hustle, Flow or Let it Go? Lessons from Burnout and Grief - with Dr. Portia Preston - Ep 556

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Eric Tivers, LCSW, ADHD-CCSP

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4.7 • 919 Ratings

🗓️ 15 September 2025

⏱️ 52 minutes

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Summary

What does it really mean to know when to push, when to pause, and when to let go? In this heartfelt conversation, Dr. Portia Preston returns to ADHD reWired to share insights from her book Hustle, Flow, or Let It Go? We talk about burnout, shame-free wellness, and the small practices that can help us create a more sustainable rhythm in life. This episode weaves together stories of resilience and grief, the reality of living with ADHD and autism, and Portia’s SANE model (Slow down, Acknowledge, Navigate, Evaluate)—a simple framework to help you reset when overwhelm takes over. We also talk about support squads, the hidden cost of hustle culture, and what it means to choose rest without shame. If you’ve been running on empty, carrying grief, or just wondering if there’s another way forward, this conversation is for you. 00:00 – Introduction: Shame Free Wellness and unlearning harmful beliefs 01:07 – Welcome to ADHD Rewired, host Eric Tivers introduces the show 01:31 – Eric shares personal news: loss of his father and recent illness 03:06 – Portia Preston joins: author, speaker, and executive coach 05:36 – Portia discusses the motivation behind her book and the concept of sustainable rhythm 07:54 – The SANE Cycle: a four-step process for self-reflection and growth 08:49 – Book launch experiences, balancing promotion, and authenticity 10:57 – Defining “hustle” and “flow” in the context of wellness 13:00 – Letting go: the challenge and importance of releasing what doesn’t serve you 15:21 – The SANE model explained: Slow down, Acknowledge, Navigate, Evaluate 17:06 – Portia’s favorite part of the book and audience reactions 17:52 – Break: Coaching and accountability group info - - 18:48 – Grief, burnout, and the importance of sitting with discomfort 22:00 – Building a support squad and the difference between solitude and isolation 25:00 – Neurodivergence, intersectionality, and Portia’s experience as a Black woman with ADHD and autism 29:00 – Audience feedback on the book and the importance of vulnerability 33:00 – Shame Free Wellness Manifesto (read aloud) 35:44 – The importance of rest, authenticity, and self-acceptance 39:00 – Context shifting, capacity vs. discipline, and self-compassion - Dr. Raquel Martin on Instagram: 43:00 – Teaching students about shame-free wellness and legacy 46:00 – Grief, community, and turning pain into purpose 49:00 – The value of showing up authentically and embracing imperfection 52:00 – Where to find Portia’s book and connect online - Book: “Hustle, Flow, or Let It Go: A Guide to Shame-Free Wellness” • • - Instagram: 54:00 – Closing thoughts: SANE model reminder and encouragement 56:00 – Outro: gratitude and next steps

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0:00.0	Shame-free wellness is for you if. You were taught that loving yourself was vain and selfish.
0:06.0	You were taught to conform to others' expectations until you lost sight of yourself.
0:10.8	You were taught to express yourself in ways that were socially acceptable rather than healthy.
0:16.1	You were taught to silence your intuition. You were taught to chase external validation. You were taught to value your
0:23.3	body's appearance more than you were taught to meet its needs. You were taught to pursue status-driven
0:29.7	connections instead of genuine acceptance and love. You were taught to abandon your soul's calling
0:35.5	if it wasn't profitable. You were taught to shrink yourself. You were taught to abandon your soul's calling if it wasn't profitable. You were taught to shrink yourself.
0:39.6	You were taught to avoid failure even at the cost of your dreams.
0:43.8	You were taught to pursue perfection.
0:46.5	You were taught not to ask for help.
0:49.5	It's time to unlearn all of that.
0:51.5	This journey is for you if you sense something deeper within. If you're
0:55.6	ready to take aligned intentional action without hesitation, if you're prepared to push past
1:02.7	doubt, naysayers, and overwhelm to live a fulfilling life. ADHD rewired episode 556.
1:11.6	Since 2014, this has been the podcast for ADHD adults who have really good intentions
1:18.6	and a slightly wandering attention.
1:20.6	I'm Eric Tivers.
1:21.6	I'm a licensed clinical social worker by training and a coach by design.
1:25.6	I'm your host and I'm AudieHD.
1:28.3	ADHD is more than just a podcast. You can learn about our coaching and accountability
1:32.8	groups, our virtual co-working community, and more. All at ADHD rewired.com. We are
1:39.4	wired for connection and you are not alone. Learn more by our offerings including our quarterly live
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