Husbands and Wives Have This OPPOSING Marriage Goal and They Don't Realize It: Episode 364
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman
5.0 • 589 Ratings
🗓️ 9 October 2024
⏱️ 25 minutes
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Summary
Does it ever feel like you and your partner have different goals or even that your needs are conflicting with one another? This can be obvious when one partner is saying they need more quality time and the other is saying they need more time for themselves. But there is another conflicting goal that men and women have that is hard to detect.
In this episode you will hear what this conflicting goal is, that you would likely never guess. From all the sessions we do, as well as having hosted our Couples Workshop, this is an underlying subconscious goal that is more pervasive than you realize. Listen in to make sure it is not affecting your relationship and hear what a better more collaborative goal is to have.
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| 0:00.0 | Hello and welcome to the Empower Couples podcast. We're here you get modern, non-boring |
| 0:05.1 | relationship advice for you and your partner to communicate like pros, fight smarter, and stay on the same |
| 0:10.4 | team no matter the challenge that you face. I am one of your hosts, Erin Freeman. And I'm |
| 0:14.3 | Jocelyn Freeman, but you all just know it says the Freeman's. And this episode is about |
| 0:18.1 | husbands and wives having this opposing marriage goal, and they don't realize it. |
| 0:23.6 | And I would bet that you're not going to guess it because this is really an interesting nuance that we have observed in our thousands and thousands of private sessions with couples over the last almost decade of doing sessions. |
| 0:37.4 | And it even came up in our couples workshop this last almost decade of doing sessions and it even came up |
| 0:39.1 | in our couples workshop this last weekend. We were so grateful to host an amazing workshop in Arizona |
| 0:46.3 | and couples flew from all over the country and even Canada came over. So we loved it. And this came up in several conversations that I had |
| 0:56.1 | with the couples particularly. And before we kind of say what it is, I just want to point out how |
| 1:02.5 | important it is to be clear on what your goals are or what your aim is in your marriage. Because if we |
| 1:10.2 | don't have that, it will just be by default, right? |
| 1:14.2 | Like by default, it might be like, well, I hope we survive this thing, right? |
| 1:19.0 | Or, well, I hope we're okay. |
| 1:21.1 | I hope you're all right and satisfied in the relationship, right? |
| 1:24.2 | It's just more by accident. |
| 1:29.9 | Yeah, or it just might be, I think, for lot of men I can speak to. The default is I'm just getting done my task management. I'm just doing the things |
| 1:37.2 | I set out to do. I'm going to work. I'm coming back or maybe you don't go anywhere anymore, |
| 1:41.9 | but I do my work I come down we make dinner |
| 1:44.8 | play with the kid it's just like you said it's the routine and I think men are often driven |
| 1:51.5 | by routine but if you're not cognizant as you said to what your aim actually is for doing that routine, then the routine becomes very boring and mundane. |
| 2:05.4 | You just lose a lot of the juice of life. |
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