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One time a story passed down by your ancestors was a story about one of your ancestors went by a cave and out of that cave

came a tiger and that tiger mauled one of your ancestors and they died and so now to this day

every time one of your ancestors goes by a cave, they run like hell. Even though in good modern urban

society, there are no more tigers in the cave. But because that story has been passed down,

you still feel the same fear even though the reality is now irrational. And what happens is

we start associating. As we grow up here, we start associating one activity with the other.

So if you've ever had an activity where it made you feel small, or you felt rejected,

or you felt some emotional pain, that becomes a cave. And now you start

judging and comparing every other experience against that. And so what ends up happening is you start

collecting all of these cave references in your mind. Okay, well, that made me feel like this. That

has the potential to make me feel like that too. has the potential to make me feel like that too.

That has the potential to make you feel like that too.

I don't want to do any one of those.

And you start collecting these things that you become irrationally afraid about.

And these could be things as simple as picking up the phone.

Or introducing yourself to a stranger or standing in front of a small group of people

to give them a presentation or standing on stage and talking to a room full of people or it could

even be walking across the room and introducing yourself and telling about your great company. It could be talking to somebody in an

elevator. You've created these irrational fears with a cave syndrome that has escalated inside your

mind.

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