How We Divide Household and Parenting Labor in Our House

Under the Influence with Jo Piazza

Jo Piazza, Influence Inc.

Technology, Kids & Family, Personal Journals, Society & Culture, Parenting

4.3 • 834 Ratings

🗓️ 16 September 2025

⏱️ 33 minutes

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So many women are exhausted by carrying more of the household labor, both the visible chores and the invisible work no one talks about. In this episode Jo and Nick sit down to map out how it really happens in their own home. They talk through who does the laundry, who puts it away, who manages school forms and grocery runs, and who gets stuck with the trash. And then there is bedtime, the nightly ritual that drains every ounce of patience and energy. What starts as a list of chores becomes a deeper look at marriage, parenting, and the hidden labor that shapes family life. Join our newsletter community here. ORDER EVERYONE IS LYING TO YOU here. Visit our lovely sponsors here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	Okay. Hello, Nick Aster. Oh, hi. Hi. Hi. Hi. Hi. How you doing? Oh, fine. Yeah. So I wanted to have you on today because one of the questions that I get a lot of from listeners and from newsletter readers is how we divide labor in our house, like who does what?
0:23.7	And I'm very curious about this, about other families too.
0:27.0	I'm thinking maybe we'll start doing a series where we have other couples on because there's a lot to get done in a household.
0:35.1	And also when it comes to taking care of kids and now there's the fact that you
0:39.2	and I are running a business together. We can get into that later. But I just, I thought maybe it
0:43.9	would be helpful for people if we just fat and and chatted about what we each do in our house.
0:50.9	Yeah, fine. Yeah? Do you feel good about this?
0:54.5	I do.
0:55.5	I have thoughts.
0:56.8	You have your thoughts.
0:57.0	Good.
1:10.8	Good. Good. All right. So let's start. I am going to say that, I mean, I don't even know where to start. It's like, how do you divide up the labor, labor of a house? And it's helpful. This is why Eve Ronski's fair play cards are so useful.
1:16.9	But let's talk about, let's talk about household chores first. Okay. Okay.
1:31.0	You do laundry. You know, I think before we even get into that, I want to point out that we've never sat down and formally outlined anything along these lines.
1:32.5	And I don't know if that's good or bad.
1:41.6	We have sort of evolved responsibilities that have been pretty consistent, but it's kind of something that evolved over time. And it's, it remains largely unspoken. So maybe this is a good conversation
1:46.2	to have to kind of, you know, see what is formalized and maybe it matters. Maybe it doesn't.
1:52.1	Yeah, no, I think that maybe we should have had this conversation before, but now we're doing it
1:56.0	in in front of thousands of people. So yeah, let's let's go. Let's do it. So in terms of like household
2:02.2	stuff, you do laundry. Right. Usually. Yeah. Which really kind of started when I was pregnant and
2:11.1	I've been pregnant three times in eight years because we live on the third floor of the house. The
2:15.8	washing machine is in the basement and me carrying the laundry down our weird old stairs would have been precarious.
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