How Victim-Playing Abusers Use Empathy-Based Guilt - Narcissist Apocalypse Q&A

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🗓️ 14 April 2023

⏱️ 39 minutes

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Brandon discusses how victim-playing abusers use empathy-based guilt to control, manipulate, avoid taking responsibility, get attention, and abuse throughout every stage of an abusive relationship. This episode discusses idealization, devaluation, post separation abuse, gaslighting, minimization, blame shifting, hoovering, trauma, isolation, jealousy, self defense, smear campaigns, suicide threats, self harm, and much more. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode mentions suicide threats and self harm. *** If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com Thank you to our sponsor BETTERHELP. If you need online counseling from anywhere in the world, please do go to https://www.betterhelp.com/nap Get started today and enjoy 10% off your first month. Thank you to our sponsor NEW MAJORITY VENTURES. To listen to their new podcast, Porch Talks, click here. If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA

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0:00.0	On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse Q&A, everyone.
0:32.2	I am Brandon Chadwick, and today we are going to be talking about victim playing and guilt. But before we get to
0:41.6	this episode, if you want to be a guest on our Survivor Story episodes, please do go to our website
0:47.0	at Narcissistapocalypse.com. Top of the page, there's a button that says guest form. When you
0:51.9	click on that button, it takes you to our guest form page. There, you can read all of our instructions and either send us an email at Narcissist
0:58.4	Apocalypse at gmail.com or fill out our guest form and press the submit button. And please do send it
1:03.8	in the format that we ask for. So today we are going to be discussing victim playing and guilt. So when it comes to victim playing,
1:16.9	the top five reasons someone plays the victim is number one is to control you. Two is to get your
1:24.8	empathy based guilt and we'll get into that very soon. Three is to get your empathy-based guilt, and we'll get into that very soon.
1:30.0	Three is to avoid taking responsibility.
1:33.1	Four is to win arguments, and five is to get attention.
1:39.2	So I want to define the word guilt first, and then also we're going to discuss empathy a little
1:45.6	as well, and then we're going to kind of combine them. So guilt is a self-conscious emotion
1:52.1	involving reflection on oneself, and people may feel guilt or feel guilty for a variety of reasons,
1:59.9	including acts that they think they have committed
2:03.1	that are wrong, or they might have think they have committed that are wrong because someone
2:07.8	can place that inside your head. There could be a failure to do something that they think
2:13.6	they should have done, and also that can be brought back to someone implanting that in your
2:18.4	head as well and then thoughts that they think are morally wrong as well. So when one person causes
2:28.3	harm to an other person, guilt is a natural emotional response. And a guilt trip is best defined as the intentional
2:39.0	manipulation of another person's emotions to induce these feelings of guilt. And that's when someone is
2:47.2	either purposely or unintentionally tries to make someone feel guilty, remorseful, or bad about
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