Welcome to the Mathishe Barker Podcast, everybody.

Hey, I'm happy you're listening today.

So today we're talking about trauma and romantic relationships and kind of a unique dynamic

where actually going to trauma therapy can present some problems in romantic relationships.

So we can feel like we're actually getting further apart.

It feels like things are actually getting worse. The dynamic between you and the person that you

love is getting more complicated, the deeper that you get into trauma treatment.

This is actually a pretty common occurrence. And so I want to give a little bit of an explanation

for why this happens. And then maybe actually like a practical point, something you can do,

something practical that you can respond with in light of that. So this is actually a small clip

from the Q&A section of my trauma workshop that I just released. So the trauma workshop

is called the free mind. We just did the live Q&A portion the other night and I like to

this clip. It's about like a 10 minute answer to this question. I thought it'd be just generally

applicable for everybody. So I was thinking you might want to hear it.

My significant other and I are working on our trauma separately. But we seem to be moving

further apart. How do I help us move back together as we go through this? And then there's another

question towards the top that was kind of adjacent to this. My girlfriend wants to take a break for

four months so that she can work on her past trauma and how it's affecting our relationship. How do I

navigate this? Yeah. Navigating relationships. While processing trauma while going through trauma

therapy, yeah, it can be totally tumultuous. It can be really disheartening to feel like, well,

this was supposed to be something that was supposed to bring us closer together. Like I'm going to

process my stuff. You're going to process your stuff that should actually remove some of the

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