How to "Win" The Power Struggle Without Struggling
Calm Parenting Podcast
Kirk Martin
4.7 • 1.4K Ratings
🗓️ 27 September 2023
⏱️ 26 minutes
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How to "Win" The Power Struggle Without Struggling
You ARE going to have power struggles with your strong-willed child, no matter the age. So often, we inadvertently make them worse by fighting them, trying to “win” as if it’s a competition, or trying to convince our kids that we are right. I want to free you from that struggle. (In this podcast, I give you examples for kids from 2-22.) Learn more at https://celebratecalm.com.
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| 1:04.2 | So you are going to have power struggles with your strong will child. No matter the age, |
| 1:10.4 | you just are. But so often we inadvertently |
| 1:14.4 | make them worse by fighting them. It's like we're trying to win as if it's a competition. |
| 1:21.1 | I'll just tell you this. If I could bet on the battles in your home, oh, I would put $100 on your strong will child every day of the week. |
| 1:31.4 | And if you want to do most dads against the strong will child, I'll put $1,000 because I will win |
| 1:38.0 | more than I will lose. Because these kids have an iron will. They don't care about consequences. |
| 1:46.1 | They have to touch the hot stove. |
| 1:51.9 | Sometimes they simply like the brain stimulation and the challenge that comes with it. And we bite off on it. Look, I believe we create more power struggles than our kids do. There's no blame. |
| 1:58.8 | There's no guilt. We don't do that. It's just true. |
| 2:01.6 | Right. It's our own control issues. It's our own anxiety as a parent, right, of wanting to make |
| 2:06.4 | everything just right and do it the right way. Right. And so we create these power struggles. |
| 2:11.3 | Like we're trying to win. Like we're trying to convince our kids that we are right. |
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