Everybody wants something to complain to, and I always said like all I wanted to do was come home and bitch about my boss and there they were on the pillow beside me.

And you have nobody to complain to, and let's face it, like every boss any of us has ever had has annoyed us.

Welcome to How To, I'm Amanda Ripley.

Whenever the power balance changes in a relationship, weird things can happen.

Say one partner starts making more money, or somebody decides to stay home with the kids.

And before you know it, also subtly the dynamics can shift.

Now imagine that your partner becomes your boss.

That's what happened to this week's listener, and it's thrown everything out of whack.

I married an amazing guy that I met at work.

We've been married about 15 years.

We were team Bethany Travis, so two sides of a coin, everything we did, we did together, we've worked at three separate places together.

And it's been amazing.

Bethany, which is not her real name, is an instructor at a small Midwestern community college.

For more than a decade, she and her husband, who were calling Travis, have worked alongside each other as equals.

So I would see him for lunch, and we'd have a date, and then we'd go back to our separate places.

And then we would see each other at home.

It was like having my best friend at work, and I loved it.

But then something happened.

A good thing, by most accounts.

He was promoted, and I was so proud and excited for him.

In my mind, nothing would really change for me, nothing would change in our relationship.

It would just be he had this different job in a new building, and he'd make more money, and it seemed like a great idea.

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