How To Stop Tolerating Lies From Your Partner Suffering From Addiction

Love Over Addiction

Michelle Anderson

Society & Culture, Wifeofanalcoholic, Codependency, Relationships, Recovery, Alanon

4.8 • 1.5K Ratings

🗓️ 23 June 2019

⏱️ 15 minutes

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Summary

We’re a community full of women that love someone suffering from addiction. And here’s the reality: our lives and relationships are different because of that.

Have you ever had an evening like this? Let’s play this out: your partner comes home 4 hours later than expected. When you ask them where they were, they say something like, “I had to stay late at work tonight.”

And here’s the reality: they did have to stay late at work, but only an extra half an hour. The other 3.5 hours they were at the bar, or hanging out at a “friend’s” house getting high.

They left out a very critical detail about their evening. That, sister, is a form of lying: not sharing the whole truth, or being intentionally vague. And you know. You know the truth. You’re a smart woman, and chances are, you’ve been here before.

And it can be so frustrating. Enraging.

In today’s episode I’m sharing real tools on how to handle these situations. There’s no two ways about it: this is hard. But we’re here for you. You’re not alone.

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0:00.0	You're listening to the Love Over Addiction Podcast. Are you guys ready to continue to dive into our series about manipulation and covert and passive aggression.
0:26.4	Now, you guys know I've said this before.
0:29.5	I'm getting pulling examples from this amazing book,'s called in sheep's clothing by Dr
0:35.8	Simon you can get it on Amazon and although the book is not specifically for
0:42.2	addiction I'm tweaking his examples and his wise advice and
0:48.4	applying it for us. Women who love someone suffering from addiction.
0:55.1	Now if you're looking for a good book,
0:57.4	this is a good one to pick up.
0:59.0	It's a quick and easy read.
1:01.6	But I want to make a disclaimer here. A lot of times self-help books
1:07.4	and relationship books written that are not specifically dealing with
1:12.2	addiction,
1:13.2	they don't apply to us.
1:16.8	The tools these very popular self-help books teach
1:21.8	are assuming that two people in the relationship are truth-tellers.
1:29.7	The authors are teaching wonderful tools for couples who both want to be in an honest
1:38.2	relationship and are willing to take responsibility.
1:43.6	So in other words, they have the common goal of wanting to work it out and they are willing
1:50.4	to make difficult changes for the sake of their partnership. But if you're
1:55.8	dealing with someone who is hiding up their addiction, a lot of the popular
2:01.0	tools that experts are now teaching are not going to work for people
2:07.0	like us.
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