How to Stop Sexual Fears from Killing Your Sex Life

Sex With Emily

Sexuality, Health & Fitness

4.2 • 6.7K Ratings

🗓️ 19 August 2025

⏱️ 54 minutes

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EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this powerful episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily tackles one of the biggest barriers to great sex: fear. From fear of rejection to body image anxieties, this episode explores how our sexual fears hold us back and provides practical strategies for overcoming them. Dr. Emily opens with the fundamental truth that fear is often "false evidence appearing real" - we create rules around what we're afraid of and then live by them, preventing ourselves from having the sex we truly want and deserve. Throughout the episode, Dr. Emily addresses common sexual fears from farting during sex to penis size anxieties to performance worries, emphasizing that we're all perfectionists when it comes to sex despite reality being much messier and more human. The episode concludes with the empowering message that facing our fears is the path to becoming our own best sexual advocate. When we ask for what we want authentically, we either get our needs met or gain valuable information about compatibility, because we all deserve pleasure and shouldn't put ourselves last in our own sexual lives. 0:00 - Introduction 4:13 - Common Sexual Fears We All Face 6:43 - Period Sex Anxiety 17:50 - Fear of Rejection in the Bedroom 23:25 - Sexual Trauma & PTSD 32:38 - Dreams About Your Ex: What They Really Mean 44:01 - Body Image Fears & Sexual Perfectionism 47:23 - Becoming Your Best Sexual Partner 50:04 - Role Playing to Overcome Sexual Fears 54:05 - Closing the Orgasm Gap Together

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1:19.3	You're listening to Sex with Emily. I'm Dr. Emily, and I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the conversation around sex. Today, I want to talk about fear. I know
1:24.6	you're thinking, well, that's not sexy, but oh, it absolutely is. Once you figure out how fear plays out in your relationship and in the bedroom, you can learn how to let it go so you can have even more incredible sex with better communication. Maybe you're afraid to tell someone how you feel about them. Maybe you're worried about asking your partner to try something new. Maybe you're terrified. They'll see you naked and change their mind.
1:45.4	Whatever those fears are, they get in the way of you expressing yourself, asking for what
1:49.7	you want, and living your authentic sexual life.
1:53.2	My intention is to help you identify your sexual roadblocks so they no longer hold you
1:57.6	back.
1:58.2	Because here's the truth.
1:59.6	Most of our fears are just false evidence
2:01.7	appearing real. We're our own worst enemies. Making up rules about what we should be afraid of
2:08.2	instead of going after the sex and love we actually deserve. All right, let's break through
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