How to Stop Saying Sorry Too Much - Stop Over-Apologizing

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Therapy in a Nutshell -Emma McAdam

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🗓️ 18 February 2023

⏱️ 11 minutes

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Stop apologizing and improve your self-esteem in this course by expert Dr. Carly LeBaron: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/improve-your-self-esteem Have you ever found yourself saying sorry for things that didn’t really deserve an apology in the first place? I once had a friend ask me “do you always apologize after giving someone a gift?” It shook me a little because I had no idea I was doing that. But when I started watching myself I totally did. I grew up in a culture of over-apologizing and it wasn’t until my 30’s that I realized how harmful it can be. Saying sorry too much undermines how others see you and how you see yourself, and that can really impact you both at home and in the workplace. In this video you’ll learn why you say sorry too much, how this messes up relationships and how to stop over-apologizing. 00:00 Introduction to over-apologizing 00:57 Learn to improve your self-esteem with this course 01:29 What Is Over-Apologizing, and Is It a Problem? 03:03 Why do People Over-Apologize? 05:33 4 Steps to stop over-apologizing Want help to stop beating yourself up? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.co... Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanut... Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com?utm_medium=YTDescription&utm_source=YouTube Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/bes... Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/c... If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

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0:00.0	This is the Therapy in a Nutshell podcast. I'm Emma McAdam, a licensed marriage and family therapist.
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0:39.6	from a therapist or other health professionals.
0:43.6	Please enjoy the episode.
0:45.6	Have you ever found yourself saying sorry for things that didn't really deserve an apology
0:49.4	in the first place?
0:51.0	I once had a friend ask me, do you always apologize after giving someone a gift?
0:55.2	Now it shook me a little bit because I had no idea I was doing that, but when I started
0:59.9	watching myself, I totally did. I grew up in a culture of over-apologizing and it wasn't
1:06.3	until my 30s that I realized how harmful it can be. Now saying sorry too much undermines how
1:12.1	others see you and how you see yourself and that can really impact you both at home
1:16.9	and in the workplace. In this video you'll learn why you say sorry too much, how this
1:22.8	messes up your relationships and how to stop over apologizing. Now real quick, if you'd like to learn
1:28.9	how to improve your self-esteem, we've got a course on that taught by an expert, Dr. Carly
1:35.2	LeBaron, and the link to that is in the description. And in that course, you'll learn practical
1:40.9	ways to improve how you see yourself and how you talk to yourself.
1:44.5	And to be honest, a lot of self-esteem stuff to me feels like kind of psychobabble.
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