How to Stop Pleasing Everyone But Yourself | Natalie Lue
Good Life Project
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4.5 • 3.4K Ratings
🗓️ 12 September 2024
⏱️ 65 minutes
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Summary
What if you could finally stop contorting yourself to please others and start living authentically on your own terms? In this honest episode, Natalie Lue, author of "The Joy of Saying No," opens up about her pivotal shift from people-pleasing into embodying her truest self.
Natalie vulnerably shares the health crisis that made her realize she was suppressing herself to become "whatever anybody wanted." Discover her strategies for separating genuine desires from ingrained obligations. Learn empowering ways to shed the cultural conditioning disconnecting you from needs and boundaries.
Unpack the subtle tendencies keeping you small, so you can courageously embrace the self you've been denying. If you crave more joy and fulfillment through radical self-honor, prioritize this dialogue.
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| 0:00.0 | For the first time in my life, I realized that it was me who is in charge of my life. I done |
| 0:06.0 | what everybody else wanted. And so over the course of the next several months, I started to |
| 0:11.6 | put some boundaries in my life. Rage really bit by bit day by day, I started being more honest |
| 0:18.0 | about who I am. That's the past. And so that was the fundamental problem with me. I swallowed all my |
| 0:22.8 | feelings, I hidden all of my former, I just became whatever anybody wanted me to be and I couldn't do |
| 0:29.0 | it anymore. My life was saying to me, you cannot pretend that you don't have feelings, you can't |
| 0:34.7 | pretend to be something that you're not. The only choice that you have is to be you. And from that |
| 0:40.0 | moment forward, it felt like everything began to shift. I mean, life changed so radically for me |
| 0:46.4 | over less than a year. It was unbelievable. So how might your life be different if you had gotten |
| 0:54.8 | comfortable saying no in your earliest days? No two other people's opinions about everything from |
| 1:01.5 | oh education to careers to relationships. No two someone else telling you what to prioritize |
| 1:07.4 | and how to spend your time. No two people you've never met offering their opinion of what you should |
| 1:12.6 | or shouldn't do. And then telling you how they think that choice worked out for you. How would your |
| 1:18.0 | life be different if you'd gotten okay choosing for you? And not just for acceptance or belonging |
| 1:24.3 | or obligation. How might you reclaim if you started getting clear on when and what to say yes |
| 1:31.1 | or no to from this moment on and rid yourself of the need to please? That is what we are diving into |
| 1:38.3 | with today's guest Natalie though, a self proclaimed recovering people pleaser who has spent nearly |
| 1:44.9 | two decades unwinding the need to please and reclaiming freedom and ease. So Natalie is a writer, |
| 1:51.2 | speaker, podcaster, artist, and founder of one of the longest running personal growth websites in |
| 1:56.4 | the world baggage reclaim and the baggage reclaim sessions podcast British born and raised in |
| 2:02.4 | Dublin, Ireland. Natalie helps people understand how their emotional baggage interferes with their |
| 2:07.2 | ability to live their lives happily and authentically. And her advice has been featured in the New York |
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