How To Stop Feeling Negative Emotions All The Time - Dr Ethan Kross - #914

Modern Wisdom

Chris Williamson

Health & Fitness, Society & Culture

4.6 • 5.9K Ratings

🗓️ 13 March 2025

⏱️ 130 minutes

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Ethan Kross is a psychologist, professor, and author. Emotions are complex. We all feel them, but how often are they genuine? When should we express them, and when should we hold them back? And ultimately how do we gain mastery over them? Expect to learn what exactly emotions are and why we struggle to control them, why anxiety is the boogie man of modern times, how to actually get in control of your emotional state, the best ways to stop ruminating thoughts, the most powerful daily practices to make big change, and much more… Timestamps: (00:00) What Is The Definition Of Emotions? (04:25) Difference Between An Emotion And A Feeling (06:45) What Is The Point Of Emotions? (11:56) Why Do We Struggle To Control Our Emotions? (18:56) Why Is The Modern World Environment Causing Anxiety? (25:45) Ways We Can Control Our Emotions (34:51) How We Can Influence Our Internal State (40:10) Studies Into People Managing Their Emotions (47:11) Balancing Our Emotions Through Life (52:49) Recognising And Utilising Our Sensory Shifters (01:02:09) Benefits And Dangers Of Avoidance (01:09:47) Tactics For Psychological Distancing (01:21:36) Can These Tools Help Provide A Change On Our Outlook? (01:26:55) Structuring The Environment Around Us (01:37:19) How To Harness Our Relationships With Other People (01:48:20) What Is Culture? (01:54:50) How Do We Make Emotional Regulation A Habit? (02:00:52) Finding The Tools That Work Best For You (02:03:46) How To Optimise A Good Emotional State (02:06:03) Where To Find Ethan Sponsors: See discounts for all the products I use and recommend: https://chriswillx.com/deals Get the Whoop 4.0 for free and get your first month for free at https://join.whoop.com/modernwisdom Get a 20% discount on Nomatic’s amazing luggage at https://nomatic.com/modernwisdom Get the best bloodwork analysis in America at https://functionhealth.com/modernwisdom Extra Stuff: Get my free reading list of 100 books to read before you die: https://chriswillx.com/books Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic: https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom Episodes You Might Enjoy: This Is How To Master Your Life - David Goggins - #577: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Goggins⁠⁠⁠ How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs - Dr Jordan Peterson - #712: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Peterson⁠⁠⁠ The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain - Dr Andrew Huberman - #700: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Huberma - Get In Touch: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	the director of the emotion and self-control laboratory at the University of Michigan.
0:06.1	What's that mean?
0:08.2	Well, what that means is we get to ask two kinds of questions in my lab.
0:12.9	So, number one, we try to understand how do people work when it comes to managing their emotions.
0:19.3	And we really care about getting in there
0:21.1	to understand the mechanics that underlie what we call emotion regulation. And then the second
0:26.8	kind of question we tackle is, how can we use this understanding of the nuts and bolts that
0:33.1	explain how people can manage their emotions to actually help them do a better job of that in their
0:38.3	daily lives outside the lab. And so trying to address those two big picture issues is something
0:44.9	that keeps us really busy and is something that is really fun, a fun way to spend your life.
0:51.8	From your time, decades looking at them what what are emotions from a
0:58.0	definitional perspective how do you come to actually define him it's great question and you know it's
1:04.2	it's funny i often um when i'm speaking about this topic to folks i I often ask people, hey, who here feels comfortable
1:12.5	coming up to the front and just telling us what it means to have an emotion? What is an emotion?
1:19.2	It's kind of wild. We experience emotions, according to this one study that I cite my book,
1:24.4	about 90% of the time that we're awake, we're experiencing some type of emotional
1:29.1	response. We are truly an emotional species. And yet if you ask people, as I often do in
1:35.0	presentations or what I'm teaching, what's an emotion? People often just stop and they have
1:40.9	trouble answering that question. So let me pose it to you actually before I go give you the,
1:45.5	give you my definition.
1:46.3	What are you thinking of emotionists?
1:48.6	And don't worry about being right or wrong.
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