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Something You Should Know

How to Stop Being Too Nice Without Being a Jerk & Your Relationship with Television

Something You Should Know

Mike Carruthers | OmniCastMedia

Science, Self-improvement, Social Sciences, Health & Fitness, Education

4.54.3K Ratings

🗓️ 10 May 2018

⏱️ 43 minutes

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Summary

What is the stronger motivator – reward or punishment? In other words, does hurt more to lose something than it feels good to gain something? We start this episode t with a look at some interesting research into this. (https://source.wustl.edu/2015/05/carrot-or-stick-punishments-may-guide-behavior-more-effectively-than-rewards/)  Some people are just way too nice. They sacrifice their own needs for the needs of others. They are so worried about what other people think of them that always want to please rather than offend. Aziz Gazapura used to be one of those people and he is now on a mission to help people stop being too nice and start being bold and authentic and do what’s right for them – not just what’s right for everybody else. Aziz is the author of the book Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty... And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly, And Unapologetically Being Yourself (https://amzn.to/2I7IW68)  When your car breaks down it is likely for one of only a couple of reasons. I’ll tell you what those reasons are and how to prevent and/or deal with them when they happen. (www.roadsidesurvival.com) Television has changed a lot of the years and the change continues according to Amanda Lotz, professor of media studies at the University of Michigan and author of the book We Now Disrupt This Broadcast: How Cable Transformed Television and the Internet Revolutionized It All (https://amzn.to/2rwDCTC). She joins me to offer a fascinating look into how television has evolved, where it is most likely headed and how it will affect what you watch and how you watch it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcript

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0:00.0

Today on something you should know, what's a better motivator, reward or punishment?

0:07.9

I'll tell you what the science says.

0:09.7

Then, a lot of people are just way too nice.

0:13.6

How do you stop being too nice?

0:16.0

That involves saying, hey, you know what, other people and their needs and their desires

0:19.3

matter, but so do mine.

0:21.3

And I think the habitual nice person devalues their own needs, dismisses their own wants,

0:26.3

and is very self-sacrificing.

0:28.5

Also, the big three reasons your car is likely to break down while you're driving and what

0:33.7

to do about them.

0:35.0

And television has been a big part of your life for a long time, but it's changing a lot.

0:40.7

That behavior of sitting down and watching what's on, I think, is increasingly going away

0:46.8

as viewers become more and more accustomed to seeking out technologies that give them

0:52.4

more choice than when they view and even how they view.

0:56.2

All this today on something you should know.

1:15.6

I started the last episode by asking for ratings and reviews on Apple Podcasts because

1:21.6

we were getting so close to 1,000 and it was just bugging me that we hadn't hit 1,000

1:28.1

yet.

1:29.1

So, I asked for your help and wow, did people respond more way over 1,000 now?

1:34.1

So, thank you.

1:35.5

If you are one of those people who left a rating and review on iTunes or Apple Podcasts.

1:41.8

And if you haven't left a review, feel free.

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