How to Stop Being Too Nice to People
The High Performance Podcast
High Performance
4.8 • 4.7K Ratings
🗓️ 19 September 2025
⏱️ 33 minutes
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Summary
Have you ever found yourself saying yes when you really wanted to say no?
In this solo episode, Jake and Damian tackle a challenge many of us face, being “too nice” at the expense of ourselves. They unpack the difference between being nice and being kind, showing why true kindness sometimes means honesty, boundaries, and even uncomfortable conversations.
Drawing on insights from guests like Martin Lewis, Sara Davies, Adam Grant, and Jameela Jamil, they explore radical candor, the power of disagreeable givers, and the importance of surrounding yourself with people who truly lift you up.
Packed with practical takeaways, this episode is a guide to moving from people-pleasing to authentic kindness, where self-respect and compassion go hand in hand.
Listen to the episodes mentioned:
Martin Lewis: https://pod.fo/e/22a519
Sara Davies: https://pod.fo/e/2a13a3
Adam Grant: https://pod.fo/e/1546d4
Jameela Jamil: https://pod.fo/e/225b9e
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