How to Stop Asking 'Are You Mad at Me?'

Modern Love

The New York Times

Nytimes, Redemption, Society & Culture, New York Times, Love, Essay, Storytelling, Loss, Nyt

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🗓️ 30 July 2025

⏱️ 44 minutes

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Summary

Therapist and author Meg Josephson on how she stopped people pleasing.

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0:00.0	Love now and...
0:04.0	Love was stronger than anything.
0:07.5	I feel of love.
0:09.0	And I love you more than anything.
0:11.0	Modern love!
0:12.0	You're still love.
0:13.0	Love.
0:16.0	From the New York Times, I'm Anna Martin.
0:19.0	This is Modern Love.
0:20.0	Every week, we bring you stories about all the messiness of relating to other people.
0:25.2	Any time my boss would slack me, can we chat or do you have a sec?
0:31.0	Immediate sinking feeling in my stomach.
0:33.9	Oh, God.
0:35.1	It's time.
0:35.9	I'm getting fired.
0:40.3	I've done something horribly wrong and I'm about to have it. My guest today is therapist and author Meg Josephson. Meg is a new book coming out called,
0:48.0	Are You Mad at Me? It's a look at this nagging, sneaking suspicion that you've done something wrong, that you're letting everyone down.
0:56.7	Just an immediate assumption that there is an inherent flaw within ourselves.
1:03.3	Am I in trouble?
1:04.7	Is something wrong with me?
1:06.6	Am I bad?
1:07.7	Am I secretly bad?
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