My job and my marriage is to love, like I said in my vows.

It's not about being loved.

See the lie is that I need to find someone who will love me.

And I think so many couples enter into their marriage and go through their relationship

over the years, believing that I've got to keep figuring out how to get her to love

me.

That's Dr. Greg Smolley, identifying a pretty common challenge in marriage today.

What is true love?

What does it look like?

How can you experience it in your own relationship?

That's our topic today on Focus on the Family, and it's especially relevant as we're right

on the eve of Valentine's Day.

Thanks for joining us.

I'm John Fuller and your host is Focus President Jim Daly.

John, I'm sure most couples when they get married, they're in deep love.

Maybe mixed with a little infatuation.

And then over the years, that infatuation might wear off, like the second, third argument

over where you squeeze the toothpaste or whatever it might be, something is going to throw

a roadblock up to say, man, did I marry the right person?

Somewhere down the line.

Now there are a handful of people and I know you're listening because you'll write or

get in touch with us to say, my husband and I, we have never had an argument.

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