How to Stay Calm When You're Triggered—Without Letting People Walk All Over You | Lisa Bilyeu (Fan Fav)

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🗓️ 6 June 2025

⏱️ 45 minutes

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This is a Fan Fav episode. When it comes to handling triggers, setting boundaries, and staying composed when all you want to do is LOSE it, trust me—I’ve been there! In this episode, I’m answering your questions about how to respond (not react!) when people push your buttons, ways to shut down rude behavior with calm clarity, and how to set boundaries without losing your empathy or self-respect. I’m breaking it down step-by-step, sharing the exact scripts and mindset tricks I use (and practice—again and again!) so you can navigate even the toughest conversations with confidence. No sugarcoating, just honest, actionable advice from my own hot-headed, work-in-progress journey. SHOWNOTES How to stay calm and composed in the moment—even if you’re a self-described “hothead” (00:00:00) Lisa’s step-by-step script for handling inappropriate or rude comments (00:02:57) Why replaying your “cringe” moments is key to growth—not shame (00:01:09) The real reason empathy isn’t your problem (and what is) when you’re feeling manipulated (00:08:36) A powerful exercise for setting healthy boundaries with family (00:11:06) How to resist getting swept up in someone else’s anger or emotional state (00:15:03) De-escalation strategies for handling people who are seeing red—whether you know them or not (00:19:28) Tools for catching negative emotions in the moment and choosing to respond, not react (00:33:38) Scripts and phrases to calmly defend yourself—without guilt (00:29:11) Why it’s all about being proud of how you show up for yourself, even if you mess up (00:31:54) CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out. BIOptimizers: Head to⁠ https://bioptimizers.com/impact ⁠and use code IMPACT for 10% off. OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ Netsuite: Download the new e-book Navigating Global Trade: 3 Insights for Leaders at ⁠http://NetSuite.com/women⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:44.0	What up guys?
0:45.0	Today I am answering questions from you on how the hell you stay calm, calm and collective
0:49.6	when someone has triggered you and all you want to do is lose your sh-hs how the hell do you respond
0:55.5	instead of react when triggered let's get after it I have the best intentions of
1:01.2	controlling my emotions and not losing my sh-but when confronted with a situation that
1:06.0	challenges that I completely forget about my intentions to stay calm and in control. How do I teach myself
1:12.3	to remember to keep composure in the moment? All right, I love this because I'm exactly like that.
1:18.9	I am literally a hothead. I don't take pride over it, but I am. So I've just acknowledged that
1:23.8	I'm a hothead. Knowing that, now I have to come up with ideas and strategies
1:28.2	and techniques so that I don't end up, like you, becoming extremely emotional in those
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