Hey, what's up and welcome back to another episode of the Relationship School,

coaching school podcast. I'm your host, Jason. And in our last episode, I explored the drain

of having a strategy, or being in your strategy a lot. It's draining. In this episode,

we're going to talk about kind of building off that, we're

going to talk about how to spot an elder. And I'll define what an elder is, and then I'll

talk briefly about how to spot one. And first, let's start by saying why this matters.

Well, I'm a parent. I have two kids, and years ago, I started teaching what I was

learning to people, and someone told me, you're too young to teach this stuff. You're only 30-something,

and you don't, you lack life experience, blah, blah, blah. And you're not, you're only 30 something and you don't you you lack life experience blah blah blah and you're

not like a true elder and they kind of you know came at me with some heat and I was like oh okay

and that uh that not only made me feel ashamed um but I felt a little guilty. And I also was like, wait, yeah,

yeah, who am I? And it kind of had me think about my imposter syndrome and like, wow,

am I just, gosh, I'm wrestling with this. I just want to help people. I want to take what I'm

learning and help someone else. But that, their voice came into my head of like, yeah, who are, who am I really? Like, gosh,

I'm only in my 30s. And I'm trying to teach people in their 50s how to do their relationships

better. You know, who the fuck am I? What do I know? This 50-year-old person knows way more than me

about life and stuff.

And so, right, I could feel the tension between these two because I did know quite a bit

in my late 30s, especially about relationships because I studied psychology in graduate school

and I was working with clients and families and I was, you know, doing all kinds of trainings.

Whereas the 50-year-old person wasn't doing anything to improve their relationships.

And so that we see that in life, right?

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