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The Mel Robbins Podcast

How to Speak Up for Yourself: Simple Strategies for Being Heard

The Mel Robbins Podcast

SiriusXM Podcasts

Education, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness, Relationships, Self-improvement, Mental Health

4.715.3K Ratings

🗓️ 27 March 2023

⏱️ 57 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, you’re learning how to speak up for yourself and make sure that you are heard. Whether you want to be more influential and visible at work or there’s a hard conversation that you’ve been avoiding with a family member, this episode will empower you to have a breakthrough. Most of us have never been taught the skills we need to have challenging conversations or to better advocate for our needs. The good news is that these are skills, and you are going to learn them in a very entertaining and relatable format today. You’re invited to listen in on multiple coaching sessions with listeners just like you and me who are struggling to find the words or the courage to say what needs to be said. So today I’m unpacking my formula, step by step, for handling challenging conversations. This is an excellent episode to send to people in your life who you really wish saw their own value and worth and could communicate it better. I can’t wait to hear how these very clear steps have helped you have those conversations you’ve been putting off and to show up differently at work and school. Xo Mel Want me to answer your question on the podcast? Submit it here. In this episode, you’ll learn: 3:00: Listen to Claudia’s question about how to set boundaries in friendships. 5:30: Here are 3 reasons why we avoid difficult conversations in the first place. 14:40: Do you have a friend who criticizes you? Listen to this. 17:30: Make sure you are ready with THIS before you start your conversation. 19:45: This is a prime example of a time when I was being a crappy friend. 23:30: Here’s what you should assume before you have a conversation. 25:30: Never do this or you’ll put the other person on the defensive. 26:45: If you can, PLEASE have your conversation this way. 30:40: Here’s my favorite visual when it’s my turn to listen. 33:40: Do you have to communicate with an ex? Listen to Erica. 35:50: You’ve got to learn how to “gray rock” when dealing with difficult people. 36:40: See the petty people in this ridiculous way and it will help! 39:30: Like it or not, you have to have this conversation for your kids’ sake. 40:30: Here is what anger and pettiness actually is. 41:15: One of two things will happen when you handle conversations like this. 43:30: How do you handle combative people in your life? Listen to Candace. 46:00: Here’s what a person with anxious attachment needs to hear from you. 49:00: Need to have a conversation with someone who’s triggered easily? Is it time to let go of your relationship? If so, then listen to “How to Let Go.” Learn about “The 4 Attachment Styles for Healthy Relationships.” Disclaimer

Transcript

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0:00.0

Hey, it's your friend Mel.

0:03.0

And today, we are having a difficult conversation on the Mel Robbins podcast.

0:09.3

So let's just jump right into it.

0:12.8

Okay, you ready?

0:17.2

Because we need to talk.

0:20.0

And I bet just hearing those words, we need to talk.

0:23.8

Doesn't it make your armpit start to sweat?

0:26.9

I know whenever anybody texts me or sends me an email and they write the words, hey,

0:32.3

Mel, I have something that I need to talk to you about.

0:36.4

I suddenly feel like it's fourth grade Mel and I'm about to get grounded.

0:41.3

And so first things first, yes, we are talking about difficult conversations today.

0:47.5

But take a deep breath.

0:49.6

Relax.

0:51.0

You and I are not having a difficult conversation.

0:54.4

Today, you have a front row seat as I'm coaching four listeners of the Mel Robbins podcast

1:01.0

or just like you who need to have a difficult conversation with someone in their life.

1:07.7

Now they've been avoiding it.

1:09.1

They've been thinking about it.

1:11.3

And now they've reached out and they're seeking advice for the best way to handle those

1:16.4

conversations that we all need to have at some point in our lives.

1:22.0

And that's what we're going to unpack today.

1:24.6

And if you're brand new to the Mel Robbins podcast, welcome.

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